Video: Be Happier — Put Your Values into Action in Your Everyday Life.

2010 Happiness Challenge: For those of you following the 2010 Happiness Project Challenge, to make 2010 a happier year – and even if you haven’t officially signed up for the challenge — this month’s theme is Eternity. Last week’s theme was Do good, feel good. Did you try to follow that resolution? Did it help to boost your happiness?

This week’s resolution is to Put your values into action in your everyday life.

How about you? What ways have you found to put your values into action in your everyday life?

If you want to read more about this resolution, check out…
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A happiness lesson from…Simon Cowell? Yep.

If you’re new, here’s information on the 2010 Happiness Challenge (or watch the intro video). It’s never too late to start! You’re not behind, jump in right now, sign up here. For more ideas, check out the Happiness Project site on Woman’s Day.

* If you’ve read Barry Schwartz’s The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, or Lori Gottlieb’s Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, you might enjoy this short story, The Butterfly, by Hans Christian Andersen. It develops the same ideas in fairy-tale form.

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  • Nate

    I would definitely have to say being more mindful in my everyday speech. I talk about mindfulness and meditate on a regular basis, but one could say the real practice is putting that into action through right speech, right action, right livelihood, etc.

    A simple example, that I think a lot of us have challenges with, is listening. I’m really trying to be a better and more compassionate listener. Instead of just waiting for a person to finish so I can speak, I’m trying to put active listening into action by being fully present and mindful in my listening.

    • gretchenrubin

      This is so true for me — trying to be a better listener, too. Much more
      challenging than it sounds.

  • LivewithFlair

    Hey! A great post today! Our family is putting into action one of our solutions to insecurity (both relational and financial). When we live according to God’s economy, we can find freedom from insecurity. This means we stop worrying about what we are getting and who likes us because we ask: Who can I love? Who can I serve? How can use my resources to provide for others? That’s my flair for today!

  • My divorce has given me plenty of opportunities to put my values into action instead of reacting from an angry or hurt place. It requires a presence of mind that I have started to cultivate through my yoga and meditation practice.

    It is especially challenging for me when dealing with my ex’s girlfriend whom my kids adore. I constantly remind myself that more love is more love and to put my own feelings aside in favor of my values of peace, harmony and extended family. See my post

    • gretchenrubin

      That is a tough challenge. Sounds like you are really putting your values
      into action.

  • I realized, almost as an AHA! moment, that part of my unhappiness was that I had an ideal vision of myself that was different from the way I was actually living my life. So my ideal vision included me being productive, handling my responsibilities, being kind, etc., but I was not living in that way. I realized I was experiencing a fair bit of cognitive dissonance which further made me frustrated with myself. WHY could I not live the life of my ideal values? I realized I had to work through a lot of issues stemming from childhood, and then a troubled marriage. When I began to face the things that were holding me back, I was able to really move forward in merging my “ideal” self with my “true” self. So today I live my values much more deliberately. I do the things I need to do so at the end of the day, I know I am doing the things that make me feel like my “ideal” self. If this sounds a little weird, I’m sorry, but there it is!

    • very well said !!

  • miriam_drlicek

    I just wanted to stop by and say THANK YOU for your wonderful weekly videos! I absolutely love them! I have read you blog and book and the videos are a great reminder of things that I already am doing, or am in the process of improving, or want to catch up on!

    You are an inspiration to me 🙂

    • gretchenrubin

      Thanks for your kind words! I’m so HAPPY to hear that you find them useful.

  • This is one of my favorites! I really want my life to be a billboard to the world…sharing my values with others as I live them.

    Michele Chastain

  • Hey Gretchen, taking action based on your beliefs is one of the key ways of overcoming what I see as the 3 traps of personal development: inaction being the first, as well as ego and selfishness.

    You can read more of my thoughts on the subject here:

    Best of luck putting your beliefs into action!

  • Chris


    Kudos for the book and the approach and teaching. Videos are such great tools on the web these days. But why not use a take a little more time, lighting and even a small tripod, to make your vid production value equal to your other thoughtful work? Your great thoughts are lessened by the vid quality, which can easily be improved. Your message deserves it and it won’t be that difficult to improve the quality a lot.

    Thanks for the work,


    • gretchenrubin

      Funny you should mention this!!! Just talking about using lighting to take
      the quality up a level. Glad to hear that you think it’s a good idea, and
      thanks for your very kind words.

  • Viva local libraries! 🙂

  • interesting post. I have been pondering this topic,so thanks for writing. I’ll probably be coming back to your blog. …