Story: It’s Better to Persuade People Than to Bully Them.

This week’s video story: It’s better to persuade people than to bully them — courtesy of Aesop. I love teaching stories, and there’s no one better than Aesop.   I love the beautiful illustrations in the book that I’m holding. You can look at it yourself here. What’s your favorite fable by Aesop? Can’t see the video? Click here. Find the archives of videos here.  More than TWO MILLION views. Don’t forget to subscribe! If you’re reading this post through the daily email, click here to join the conversation. And if you’d like to get the daily blog post by email, sign up here.

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  • “Persuasion is more powerful than force.” What an awesome way to sum up a beautiful lesson that I wish many people throughout history would have learned before using force to get what they wanted.

    My favorite Aesop’s fables are “The Boy and the Nettles” (whatever you do, do it with all your might) and “The Father and His Two Daughters” (you can’t please everyone).

    They both tug at your reasoning so well, and yet even with that frustration of countering logic they feel so true based on our life experiences.

  • Summer Day

    Such a great story! I have just finished reading Aesops fables with my 6 year old for his bedtime stories the last couple of weeks. I think my husband and I have enjoyed revisiting them as much as he has enjoyed hearing them for the first time 🙂 favourites… The lion and the mouse, the fox and the grapes 🙂

  • Penelope Schmitt

    Poignant. I need to ‘persuade’ my Mom to give me a Power of Attorney and keep her Health Care Directive handy. I feel a ‘windy’ sense of urgency about this, but know that some sunny warmth and the help of my brothers is going to be needed to help her drop the cloak of pretended independence. It’s a hard thing to do–persuading an elder to let go of most controls in life. For those who have trained themselves to welcome letting go, perhaps not so bad. There is a lesson in this for me.

  • Clio

    Great story and great reminder. I would love to know where you got that edition of Aesop’s Fables. The cover is beautiful. Is the rest of the artwork as nice? I went looking for a book of Aesop’s Fables on Amazon but didn’t see one as appealing as that one. I wish I had an insightful or profound comment to go along with my request, lol, but about all I can say is “yes!” 🙂

  • Jeanne

    How true. “A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.” – Benjamin Franklin. BTW. Your link in the newsletter took me to the video on why you live in New York, not to the one about the fable. Also the link to join the conversation is once again dead. Gretchen, your bad links are making me unhappy 🙁 Can you fix this?

    • gretchenrubin

      Ack! There’s a problem with WordPress that keeps giving me bad links. I’ll see if I can figure out what’s going wrong there.
      You can always just go to the blog, because it’s the day’s post – maybe I should just put the link to the homepage. Yes, that’s what I’ll do.

  • Ruth

    Hi Gretchen! I just wanted to say thank you for your great book, The Happiness Project. I almost finished it, and throughout reading it I have been inspired to start a blog myself, and take on some form of a project. It is not necessarily the same format as your happiness project, with a set topic and objectives each month. It is more of a self reflection blog of things I’ve learnt and learnt from, and try to practice in my life. Which all contribute to balance and happiness. Maybe somebody on here may be interested in starting a similar project or having a look at mine.

    • gretchenrubin

      Terrific! off to check it out —

  • ellavanw

    Family Happiness is one of my favorite books of all time! Laurie Colwin was a brilliant and often underrated writer. Misty from Happy All The Time is a good example of a Questioner, no?

    • gretchenrubin

      I LOVE the work of Laurie Colwin.

  • Tammy Hewell

    I have heard that story so many times in my life but never thought of the morro of the story till now….Thank you Gretchen for sharing that story.

  • Sigrid Fry-Revere

    Persuasion is always better but sometimes people have developed illogical red flags to certain topics. The ones I run into almost every day are the generalization that Iran couldn’t possibly be doing anything right and that compensating kidney donors exists only on the black market. I’m happiest when I get people to think beyond convention and help open their eyes to looking at things differently. My goal in life is to help solve the organ shortage. I know this is not an easy task, and I may never succeed, but if I can persuade people to listen outside their comfort zone, I’ll be more than half way to a solution.