Podcast 86: Why It’s Good to Bring Good News, How Other People Affect Our Habits, and a Look at Obliger-Rebellion.

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Try This at Home: Be the bearer of good news (at least sometimes).

Happiness Hack: Cathy suggests that after you return from a vacation, read books set in your vacation location, to keep the vacation vibe going.

Better Than Before Habit Strategy: The Strategy of Other People — one of the most powerful strategies.

Listener Question: Thalia asks, “I’m an Obliger, but I’m with my parents, I act like a Rebel. What’s going on?” Thalia is experiencing Obliger-rebellion.

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Gretchen’s Demerit: I narrowly escape giving myself a demerit for vengefully refusing to answer Jamie’s questions.

Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Elizabeth gives Adam a gold star for getting into the spirit of Halloween and wearing a costume.

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  • Joana Rosa

    Great book set in Seattle: Where’d you go, Bernadette by Maria Semple
    Great film: Singles

  • Loved this episode and the messaging around being thoughtful to be the bearer of good news. Time is a precious thing that most people don’t have enough of now, which impacts our ability to have time to connect with others… so, often, when we do, we unload everything and it’s easy to focus on the bad first, which is exhausting to the listener. Love this great reminder to be thoughtful about how we’re showing up in those conversations.

    Also, nice to hear that my husband isn’t the only one that has to know the details about every situation but shuts down when I ask him a question about anything! 🙂

  • Rachel Goldstein

    To Gretchen about communicating with hubby: I’m guessing he doesn’t answer because he would have to break his concentration and attend to something else — and if he’s like a lot of people at work, this might be a little overwhelming. So he just doesn’t answer. So, perhaps have an honest though polite and loving conversation to remind him that you always take time away from your day to answer his questions, and even for you, an Upholder who always wants to do what is right, this takes time and energy. And, of course, that you always have a reason for asking; it’s not a random impulse.

  • Julie

    There is a person in my life who cannot wait to be the first one to tell me bad news: someone from our hometown has died; a favorite store is going out of business; a mutual acquaintance is in trouble with the law. It is exhausting and I find myself wondering each time I see a message or missed call what the bad news will be. Since I know what that feels like, I make an extra effort to NOT be that person to someone else!

  • Mairsydoats

    I’m listening to the podcast really late. Great Seattle book: Hotel at the Corner of Bitter and Sweet, by Jamie Ford. Historical fiction set in Seattle during WWII, dealing with Japanese Internment. Really lovely book.

  • Sutika

    Just listened to this and enjoyed the discussion on Obliger rebellion