Tag Archives: comparison

Story: You May Not Be the Best, You’re Probably Not the Worst.

For the weekly videos, I now tell a story. I’ve realized that for me, and I think for many people, a story is what holds my attention and makes a point most powerfully.

This week’s story (courtesy of my husband, many years ago): You may not be the best; you’re probably not the worst.


Check out the little Christmas tree behind me. It’s hard to tell, but it’s decorated with bluebirds, a symbol of happiness. My mother loves a collection! She gives me a bluebird ornament each year.

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Story: I can’t choose what I like to do, but I can choose what I do. Like driving.

12 tips for a happier home, adapted from nursery school.

How about you? Do you have a similar way to give yourself encouragement? This story reminds me of one of my Secrets of Adulthood: You know as much as most people.

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“If God Had Not Made Brown Honey, Men Would Think Figs Far Sweeter.”

“If God had not made brown honey, men would think figs far sweeter than they do.”


They say that “Comparisons are odious,” but lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the effect of comparison on happiness–and on perception generally. Comparison to others, comparison to the past, imagined comparison, comparison across experiences…it has a powerful influence on our thinking.