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Story: I Only Have to Worry about Doing My Best.

This week’s video story: I only have to worry about doing my best.

It was a big relief to me to think — well, my friend is right, I don’t have to worry about being qualified. That’s the Justice‘s problem! It’s hard to explain why that made such a difference to me. All we can do is our best, and I’ve found that when I focus on that, I’m much less anxious, and also more productive.

Has anyone managed to say the perfect thing to you — the thing that really helped you? I think about my husband saying, to a colleague who sent out a very unfortunate “Reply all” email,  “We’ve all done it.” Or my mother telling me, when I was in a frenzy of last-minute wedding plans, “The things that go wrong often make the best memories.”

Or better yet, have you ever found the perfect words to say?

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Video: Show Up (If You Want to Build and Strengthen Your Friendships).

Video: Show up — if you want to build and strengthen your friendships.

2010 Happiness Challenge: For those of you following the 2010 Happiness Project Challenge, to make 2010 a happier year – and even if you haven’t officially signed up for the challenge — this month’s theme is Friends, and last week’s focus was to Stop gossiping. Did you try to follow that resolution? Did it help to boost your happiness?

This week’s resolution is to Show up.

(** I’m trying to fix the video dimensions, because previous videos have been off-center for some people. Let me know if it’s still not working! Or if I’ve made things worse, entirely possible.)

If you want to read more about this resolution, check out…
Your assignment: Show up.
Eight tips for maintaining friendships.
Why it’s a good idea to show up.

If you’re new, here’s information on the 2010 Happiness Challenge (or watch the intro video). It’s never too late to start! You’re not behind, jump in right now, sign up here. For more ideas, check out the Happiness Project site on Woman’s Day.

* My friend, science writer Maia Szalavitz, started blogging for Time.com’s new section, Healthland — “a healthy balance of the mind, body, and spirit” — so I went to check it out. If you’re interested in the science of health and happiness, lots of great material there.

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