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A Little Happier: Accept a Gift in the Spirit in Which It’s Offered. (Easier Said Than Done.)

In my books The Happiness Project, and on my blog, I’ve written about the fact that my spiritual master is St. Therese of Lisieux, which I learned after reading her spiritual memoir Story of a Soul.

I’ve always been very struck by St. Therese’s discussion about getting gifts. She emphasizes that we should accept a gift in the spirit in which it’s offered — and also admits why, even for her (a saint!), this is difficult.

This is the line I especially love: “for the love of God and my Sisters (so charitable toward me) I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.”

If you’d like to watch a short video of me talking about the happiness resolution of “Imitate your spiritual master,” it’s here:

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A Little Happier: Having More Doesn’t Always Make Us Happier.

I wrote about this story in my book The Happiness Project; its lesson is just as true for adults as for children.

I’ve never forgotten about that little boy saying sadly, “I can’t love lots of cars.”

If you like this story, and would like to hear more wisdom from the teacher who told it to me, you can check out the excellent book that she wrote with her colleague: Practical Wisdom for Parents: Raising Self-Confident Children in the Preschool Years, by Nancy Schulman and Ellen Birnbaum.

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A Little Happier: The Days Are Long, But the Years Are Short.

Of everything I’ve ever created, I think my one-minute video The Years Are Short is the thing that resonates most with people.

It’s even more poignant now — my daughter Eliza, the little girl in the story, is seventeen years old! Sunrise, sunset.

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Episode 63: The Problem of Passwords, Why Rewards Can Be Dangerous, and Does Elizabeth Have to Write These Thank-You Notes?

It’s time for the next installment of  “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

Update: Big news! (At least for me.) I’m doing weekly live videos on my Facebook Page about the podcast. I talk to viewers about questions, comments, suggestions. Any episode; don’t worry if you’re not caught up. You can watch the most recent one here or my video with our producer Henry, look here. If you want to join the conversation live, I’m doing them on Tuesdays at 1:00 pm Eastern. Join in! It’s so fun to have a chance to talk to listeners and viewers.

Try This at Home: In episode 61, we asked listeners for answers to Emily’s question about how to manage online passwords.  The answer: have a strategy.

Better Than Before Habit Strategy: The Strategy of Rewards is a very, very tricky strategy to use. People often mis-use rewards when they’re trying to create a habit.

If you want the checklist for habit change, it’s here, at the bottom of the list.

Listener Question: Nine-year-old Isobel asks “How can we be happier while taking tests?” The book I mention is Kelly McGonigal’s The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It.

Elizabeth’s Demerit: Elizabeth didn’t write thank-you notes after Jack’s birthday party. I contest this demerit!

Gretchen’s Gold Star: I used the Strategy of Scheduling to work on my Four Tendencies quiz. (You can take it here to find out if you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.)

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Have You Read Alan Rickman’s Wonderful Thank-You Note to J. K. Rowling?

This morning, I was very sorry to see that actor Alan Rickman had died. I’m a huge Harry Potter fan, and among other roles, Rickman was a terrific Severeus Snape in the Harry Potter movies.

Thinking about him, I was reminded of the lovely thank-you note that he dedicated to J. K. Rowling. It makes me happy every time I think of it.