My father often talks about “True Rules.” For example, when I started working after college, he said, “It’s one of the True Rules – if you’re willing to take the blame, people will give you responsibility.” And in my experience that rule has certainly turned out to be true.
I love True Rules, and I recently started writing them down whenever I heard them. These aren’t general rules for living, like “Enjoy every day.” They’re more specific and concrete.
My sister spouts these rules regularly. “People succeed in groups.” “Everyone who moves from New York to Los Angeles gains ten pounds.” “You don’t get a writing job in L.A. until you’ve lived here for three years.” “Everything you’ve heard about L.A. is more true than you could possibly imagine.”
Just yesterday, a friend mentioned a rule to me, “When I was studying ballet, we said that for every week we took off from training, we needed a week to get back to our previous condition.” Another friend has a very controversial rule, “Every guy deserves a second date.”
So I’m going to start a new series, the True Rules series. We can all learn from each other. And I find these rules illuminating and deliciously interesting.
It’s going to be a VIDEO series. To figure out how to do this, I had to remind myself of several happiness-project resolutions: “Learn to do something new,” “Enjoy the fun of failure,” and “Ask for help.”
A friend who writes the fascinating blog In Case of Emergency, Read Blog told me that posting video clips was easy. I got a Flip camera and fiddled around with it. Then I called him to get his advice. He was right, it is easy! (Assuming I pull this off, see below.)
Then I asked another friend, Michael Melcher – author of the terrific book The Creative Lawyer – to provide the first video clip. I love his two True Rules.
You can see that I'm just getting the hang of this camera -- I'll have better production values next time. I'm just so pleased with myself that I figured out how to post the clip!
*Interested in starting your own Happiness Project? If you’d like to take a look at my Resolutions Chart, for inspiration, just email me at grubin, then the “at” sign, then gretchenrubin dot com. No need to write anything more than “Resolutions Chart” in the subject line.
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