Gretchen Rubin

“Happy People Make People Happy — But You Can’t MAKE Someone Happy.”

For the past few weeks, I've been thinking and writing a lot about how people of pronounced positivity and people of pronounced negativity affect each other. (a/k/a Tiggers vs. Eeyores.) These two groups often annoy and drain each other (and themselves) in their efforts to make conversions to their own ways of thinking.

Whenever I have a big idea, I try to sum it up in a few words: "The days are long, but the years are short"; "Accept myself, and expect more from myself."
Sometimes these are a bit koan-ish: "Happiness doesn't always make me feel happy."

I summed up the present line of argument in this way:
Happy people make people happy -- but you can't make someone happy.

What do you think?

And now...no more on this topic for a while.

On another note -- thanks so much for all the kind words of congratulations about the Kristin Davis/NBC/Kristin Newman television deal! I appreciate that so much.

* I'm in Long Beach, California, right now, to speak at Maria Shriver's Women's Conference this evening -- so happy to be here. If you're interested, you should be able to watch the live webcast here.

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