Gretchen Rubin

Story: People Do Best What Comes Naturally.

For the weekly videos, I now tell a story. I’ve realized that for me, and I think for many people, a story is what holds my attention and makes a point most powerfully.

This week’s story: People do best what comes naturally.


Agree, disagree? It's not that people can't do what doesn't come naturally, or can't enjoy what doesn't come naturally, or can't train themselves to do well what doesn't come naturally--but in the end, I do believe, people do best what comes naturally.

At least, this has been very true for me. During the course of my life, I've worked very hard, and often with success, at things that didn't come naturally. But in the end, I do best--and certainly most enjoy--what comes naturally.  By the way, the fact that something "comes naturally" doesn't mean that it's easy or doesn't require tremendous amounts of practice.

Ah, Forty Ways to Look at JFK! What a joy it was to write that book.

If you want to read more along these lines, check out…

Paradox of Happiness: the sadness of a happiness project.  (A good friend told me this was her favorite post, of everything I've ever written.)

Quest for Self-Knowledge: Do what you DO.

What did you do for fun when you were ten years old?

You can check out the archives of videos here.  More than 1.3 MILLION views.

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