Gretchen Rubin

Story: People Want To Be Loved Specially.

For the weekly videos, I now tell a story. I’ve realized that for me, and I think for many people, a story is what holds my attention and makes a point most powerfully.

This week’s story: People want to be loved specially.


The two books I mention are Faber and Mazlish's fantastic books, Siblings Without Rivalry (which is where you'll find the specific point I mention) and How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk.  I think both books are just as applicable to adults as children.

How about you? Do you think that people want to be loved specially? I'm reminded of the lines from W. H. Auden's poem, "September 1, 1939"--I'm not sure that they're exactly apt here, but they spring to mind:

For the error bred in the bone

Of each woman and each man

Craves what it cannot have,

Not universal love

But to be loved alone.

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