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Take This Poll: Are You an Upholder, Questioner, Rebel, or Obliger?

Every Wednesday is Tip Day, or Quiz Day, or List Day.

These days, I’ve been thinking and writing a lot about my Four Categories related to rule-following (I still need a clever name for the set). For me, this scheme--of Upholders, Questioners, Rebels, and Obligers--sheds a real light on certain aspects of human nature and behavior.

I’m very curious to know the relative size of the four different categories, so I’m posting this poll. The results won’t be scientifically valid, but still, it will be interesting to see how the numbers fall.

If you don’t know your category, read the descriptions here and here. I myself an Upholder.

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Based on your own experience, what categories do you expect to be largest and smallest? Or do you expect the four categories to be roughly equally well-represented? I have my own view—but won’t reveal it yet.

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Based on your own experience, what categories do you expect to be largest and smallest? Or do you expect the four categories to be roughly equally well-represented? I have my own view—but won’t reveal it yet.\

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Every Wednesday is Tip Day, or Quiz Day, or List Day. These days, I’ve been thinking and writing a lot about my Four Categories related to rule-following (I still need a clever name for the set). For me, this scheme–of Upholders, Questioners, Rebels, and Obligers–sheds a real light on certain aspects of human nature and […]\

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