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Story: Tell Me What You Want for Dinner.

This week's video story: Tell me what you want for dinner.

I'm re-posting this story, because it's been on my mind a lot lately. I've been thinking about the fact that often, we can be generous by taking. Accepting a gift, accepting help, telling people what we want.

When I posted it before, the comments suggested that some people believed the significance of this story to be, "It's easier to cook when someone else gives you a meal suggestion." That may be, but for me, the story is really about the mystery of giving and taking.

Of course, sometimes taking is a sign of neediness--at an appropriate level, or not--but sometimes it can be a gesture of love and generosity. It's a Secret of Adulthood: sometimes it can be selfless to be selfish.

If you're interested in this general subject, I recommend Adam Grant's fascinating book, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. For the most part, he focuses on the business context, but many of the insights are widely applicable.

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