Gretchen Rubin

Can a Vine Behave like an Olive Tree? No.

Can a Vine Behave like an Olive Tree? No.

A vine cannot behave olively, nor an olive tree vinely—it is impossible, inconceivable. No more can a human being wholly efface his native disposition.

--Epictetus, Discourses, 2.20.18

This is what has struck me most in my study of habits. We can't change our fundamental nature. We have to form the habits that work for us.

An Owl shouldn't bother trying to form the habit of getting up early to exercise. A Moderator shouldn't bother trying to form the habit of giving up sugar. A Sprinter shouldn't both trying to form the habit of doing a little work each day, well before a deadline.

Those are great habits for Larks, Abstainers, and Marathoners. But there's no magic, one-size-fits-all-solution for habits. Unfortunately.

An olive tree can't act like a vine, and an Obliger won't form habits the way that an Upholder will.

When we know ourselves, and figure out how to shape our habits to suit our native disposition--that's when we succeed.

How about you? Have you ever found it much easier to form a habit when you changed your approach to be better suited to your nature? Your love (or dislike) of competition? Your love (or dislike) of spare decoration? Your love (or dislike) of bold changes?

You can pre-order my book about habit change, Better Than Before, here--but don't worry, that's not the actual cover of the book. Pre-orders really help a book, so if you're inclined to buy it, I really appreciate a pre-order.

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