Be Selfless, If Only For Selfish Reasons; Selfish, If Only for Selfless Reasons

Be Selfless, If Only For Selfish Reasons; Selfish, If Only for Selfless Reasons

From Further Secrets of Adulthood:

This is a very important Secret of Adulthood.

Be selfless, if only for selfish reasons: do good, feel good -- it really works! One of the best ways to make ourselves happier is to make someone else happier. It's a kind of gratification that never palls. Some people think that this good feeling detracts from the altruism of any virtuous act -- but to my mind, the fact that we feel good when we do good for others is one of the best aspects of human nature. I feel happier when I see anyone doing something good -- especially if it's me!

Be selfish, if only for selfless reasons: when we give more to ourselves, we can ask more from ourselves. That's why we need healthy treats. That's why we need to work on the Strategy of Foundation.  When we take care of ourselves, we can forget about ourselves, and turn outward to think about other people and the problems of the world.  People who are happier are more altruistic: they give away more money, volunteer more time, and are more likely to lend a hand. One of the best ways to make someone else happier is to be happy ourselves.

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