In my latest (bestselling) book, Better Than Before, I identify the twenty-one strategies of habit-formation, and one is the Strategy of Loophole-Spotting.
I’m doing a video series in which I discuss the ten categories of loopholes. I love studying loopholes, because they’re so funny. And ingenious! We’re such great advocates for ourselves — in any situation, we can always think of some loophole to invoke.
What is a “loophole?"
When we try to form and keep habits, we often search for loopholes, for justifications that will excuse us from keeping this particular habit in this particular situation. However, if we catch ourselves in the act of loophole-seeking, we can perhaps reject them.
Seventh of ten loopholes: Lack of Control loophole.
This is a very popular loophole. We argue that we don’t have control over the situation, and circumstances have forced us to break a habit. However, usually we have more control than we admit.
Lack of Control Loophole Examples
The dog ate my homework.
Alcoholics can quit drinking, and smokers can quit smoking, but I can’t quit eating. (I can’t quit eating, but I can quit eating sugar, or grains, or processed food.)
I’m too stressed to deal with this now.
I travel all the time.
The subway always makes me late.
This snack has been specially engineered by the food industry to be irresistible.
My favorite trainer quit.
My kids take up all my time.
The church’s annual Fathers’ Day Breakfast has always been all-you-can-eat.
We opened a bottle of wine, so we have to finish it.
Do you ever find yourself invoking the Lack of Control loophole? It’s super-sneaky, in my experience. Very easy to invoke without even realizing it.
Did you notice that in the video, my example of the "irresistible food" is Froot Loops? Get the joke?
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