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Secret of Adulthood: Hell Is Other People; Heaven Is Other People.

Secret of Adulthood: Hell Is Other People; Heaven Is Other People.

From Further Secrets of Adulthood: Hell is Other People; Heaven is other people.

Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree that if a key -- perhaps the key -- to happiness is our relationships to other people. To be happy, we need to have enduring, intimate bonds; we need to be able to get and give support; we need to be able to confide, we need to feel like we belong. People make us happy.

But what makes us unhappy? Well, in many cases, people.

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