“How unconscious we are, often, that giving may actually be asking, asking at the very least for attention. I am sure I err in this way myself. This kind of giving for selfish reasons often ends in frustration and even recrimination: ‘I have given you so much. Why don’t you answer or respond?’ which is to say, ‘When I love you so much, why can’t you love me?’”
–May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude
Sometimes, we can be needy by giving. Sometimes, we can be generous by taking.
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