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What Are Your Questions and Comments about Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels?

What Are Your Questions and Comments about Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels?

My sister and I are having a great time doing our podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

Coming up, we've decided to try something a little different.  We're going to do a special series on the Four Tendencies framework that I discuss in Better Than Before, my book about habit formation.

With the Four Tendencies, I divide all of humanity into four categories: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels.

For four weeks on the podcast, we're going to focus on the Tendencies. Strengths, weakness, striking patterns...and you'll get to hear me talk about being an Upholder and Elizabeth talk about being an Obliger. And you'll get to hear me talk about Elizabeth's Obligerness and hear her talking about my Upholderness!

Plus we'll have guests to speak for Questioner and Rebel.

In the meantime, you can read about the Four Tendencies framework here, and take the free online Quiz to find out your Tendency (more than 200,000 people have taken the Quiz.)

Send us your insights and questions

For those episodes, we'd love to hear from you. Questions, comments, insights. How do you manage yourself, given your Tendency? How do you deal with a spouse, child, co-worker, boss, patient? How do you hire and construct teams thinking about the Four Tendencies? How do you shape your habits -- or help other people to shape their habits -- using the Four Tendencies?

We asked for comments in our last episode, and we've already received many thought-provoking responses. Keep them coming.

There’s lots of ways to share your responses or questions:


All things being equal, it's great to hear your voice, so if possible, leave us a voice message. But I know that I resist making calls whenever possible, so would always choose to write a response instead of using the phone. That's great too!

We're really looking forward to this mini-series on the Four Tendencies. What are you comments and questions? Send them in.

(For the record, if you're thinking, "I question the validity of a framework that divides everyone into four categories," you're probably a Questioner.)

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Find out if you’re an Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, or a Rebel.

The Four Tendencies explain why we act and why we don’t actOur Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so understanding your Tendency lets us make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress and burnout, and engage more effectively.

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