Gretchen Rubin

I Make a Good Happiness Choice, and a Bad Happiness Choice.

I Make a Good Happiness Choice, and a Bad Happiness Choice.

One of the advantages of being a writer is that I have a lot of control over my time. However, I often don't take advantage of that. I feel uncomfortable if I'm not being "productive" when I feel like I should be working -- and most of the time, I feel like I should be working.

But the other morning, I made a good happiness choice. I was going to the Panoply studio in Brooklyn to record an episode of my podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, and somehow I got it in my head that I needed to leave my apartment at 8:15. Only when I arrived at my subway stop did I realize I should've left at 9:15.

So what to do with that hour? First, I considered using that time for work. I saw a nice outdoor cafe, but then I thought -- no, I'll choose to wander.  I want to explore, and spend this lovely June morning getting to know a new part of New York City.

So I did. I walked around Brooklyn Heights, I saw the waterfront, I went to the bank, I got some exercise (I haven't had much exercise in the last few weeks), I got to understand the geography of the city better -- I had a very happy hour. And I had plenty of time to work, later. In The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, I write about why these various elements give a happiness boost.

Today, I made a different choice. I met a friend for lunch, and her office was right near a perfume shop that I've been meaning to visit for months. I'd planned to go to the store after lunch, but when I got out on the street, I thought, "I just took a long break for lunch. I need to get back to my desk." And here I am, back at my desk -- and I wish I'd visited the perfume shop! I love perfume, it was only a few blocks away from my friend's office, but it's quite far from my apartment, so I'm unlikely to be down there again soon. I wish I'd taken the time to enjoy that neighborhood, enjoy some beautiful scents -- and delayed my desk time by an hour.

We talk a lot about the problem of procrastinating work in order to goof off. But sometimes, we procrastinate goofing off in order to work. Do you ever have this problem?

Obviously, it's not a good idea to leisure over work all the time. But sometimes, it's the right choice.

I should've put "Visit perfume store" in my calendar. Upholder that I am, I bet that would've helped me to go.

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