Gretchen Rubin

E. M. Forster Explains How To Know If a Book Is Influencing You.

E. M. Forster Explains How To Know If a Book Is Influencing You.

“I suggest that the only books that influence us are those for which we are ready, and which have gone a little farther down our particular path than we have got ourselves. I suggest, furthermore, that when you feel that you could almost have written the book yourself—that’s the moment when it’s influencing you. You are not influenced when you say, ‘How marvelous! What a revelation! How monumental! Oh!' You are being extended. You are being influenced when you say ‘I might have written that myself if I hadn’t be so busy.'"

– E. M. Forster, “A Book That Influenced Me,” from Two Cheers for Democracy

Does this ring true for you?

I have to say, I think that people sometimes get that feeling from my books, especially The Happiness Project. People often say to me,  "Wow, I could've written a book like yours myself." And I always think, "Terrific, you should!"

One of my favorite happiness-project resolutions is to "Imitate a spiritual master," and I feel influenced (I hope) every time I read Story of a Soul, the memoir of my spiritual master, St. Therese of Lisieux. She's a great saint and a Doctor of the Church and I'm me, of course, but still, when I read St. Therese, I think, "That's exactly right, I've thought the same thing myself, I've struggled with that impulse, too. "

What books have influenced you -- or extended you?

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