The Two Things Everyone Needs to Be Happy (Yes, everyone!)

The Two Things Everyone Needs to Be Happy (Yes, everyone!)

I often talk about how there’s no magic, one-size-fits-all answer for boosting happiness, creativity, and maintaining healthy habits. And it’s true—except that there are two things that everyone needs to be happy.

After spending years studying and thinking about happiness, I really do believe that most of us can take simple steps that will boost our happiness. We can be happier now, within the course of our ordinary days.

You need two things to be happy:

1) Relationships. Anything we can do to deepen or broaden our relationships makes us happier.

2) Self-knowledge. We can build a happy life only on the foundation of our own nature, values, and interests, so we have to know ourselves. It’s very easy, however, to get distracted by what we wish were true, what we assume is true, or what other people want to be true about us. We really must push ourselves to be honest.

Unfortunately, while most of us know that relationships are the key to happiness, we’re not sure how to deepen our bonds with other people. And we’re puzzled about how to learn to know ourselves better – and how to use that knowledge to help us improve our habits.

That’s why I created “The Happiness Project Experience” video course. In the ten years since my bestselling book, The Happiness Project, was published, I’ve heard from thousands of people who want to be healthier, happier, more creative, and more purposeful about how they spend their time.

This video course gives structure and ideas to participants who want to create their own happiness projects. With twelve months of video lessons, live calls, expert interviews, and more, this course helps you identify—and keep—the resolutions that will bring more happiness to your life.

One of the key ideas of “The Happiness Project Experience” is that you can change your life without changing your life—you don’t need to spend a lot of time, energy, or money.

If you’re willing to spend a few hours a week to boost your happiness, 2020 could be the year that changes your life. Trade one hour a week that you might normally spend watching TV or scrolling on social media and invest in yourself instead. Registration is open until January 20, 2020. Join now for four payments of $49, or one annual payment of $199.

Beware of Drift

"Drift" is the decision we make by not deciding, or by making a decision that unleashes consequences for which we don’t take responsibility.

You go to medical school because both your parents are doctors. You get married because all your friends are getting married. You take a job because someone offers you that job. You want the respect of the people around you, or you want to avoid a fight or a bout of insecurity, or you don't know what else to do, so you take the path of least resistance.

One of the problems of drift is that we often try to deny we’re drifting. Do any of the statements below resonate with you?

  • I complain about my situation, but I don’t spend much time trying to figure out ways to make it better.
  • I fantasize that some catastrophe or upheaval will blow up my situation. I’ll break my leg or get transferred to another city.
  • There is something in my life about which I used to be passionate, but now I never allow.
  • I spend a lot of time daydreaming about a completely different life as an escape from what I’m doing now.
  • I feel like other people or processes are moving events forward, and I’m just passively carried along.
  • I find myself doing or getting something because the people around me are doing it or want it.

The Happiness Project Experience” will help you identify what brings you joy, satisfaction, engagement, and growth. It will help you make and keep your resolutions to boost your happiness.

But don’t take it from me. Here’s what participants who took this course in 2019 said:

I was worried that I didn’t have enough time to do it. But Gretchen makes it easy to commit a little or a lot of time each month, depending on your bandwidth. Over the course of the year, I built new morning habits, lost weight, tightened up my exercise habits, strengthened friendships, and completed 14 of my “19 for 2019” list. Before the course, I was struggling with accountability and because of this course, now I have four new accountability partners!” - Jean Sundlof

“This course has been a great way to make sure I spend some time each month focusing on myself and my wellbeing. As a working mum, it's easy to spend all my spare time and energy on my children, but it has definitely made me happier and a better parent and wife to have this time to myself each week. It's also a great source of recommendations for further research and reading on how to invest in your own happiness and wellbeing. And it's great to have the support of the community while you do it! I would definitely recommend the course.” - Michelle Chandler

“This course really helped me get to know myself better and what REALLY makes me happy. Before I signed up, I didn’t feel like I was struggling with anything. But, now that I look back and compare myself now to where I was at the beginning of 2019, I’m living a better life. This course helped me have the courage to make a career change, solidify better eating, exercising, and sleeping habits, dejunk my house, spend more time outdoors, and partake of more joy in everyday life.” - Heather Rasband

“If you're a fan and follower of Gretchen Rubin, “The Happiness Project Experience” is a great way to work on your happiness habits. My favorite Gretchen saying is, “What you do everyday matters more than what you do once in awhile.” This course builds your everyday skills. I appreciated the monthly themes and the interviews with people connected to these themes. The “Ask Gretchen Anything” calls provided insights into how each Tendency approaches happiness.” - Rachel Stansberry

“Before the course I was doing happiness activities on my own, but after the course I feel like I am part of a community of kindred spirits who are in it together. I feel like I am living even more in an “atmosphere of growth” where I am continually motivated to try new resolutions.” - Diana Burgess

“This course has helped me to know what truly makes me happy. The themes of each month are perfect for exploring the many facets of a human life. I plan to take one of Gretchen's suggestions and spend 2020 going through the course again with the goal of solidifying the habits that increase my happiness.” - Therese A

Register now and you’ll immediately get access to video lessons and worksheets so that you can stop drifting and take concrete steps to change your habits, boost your happiness, and achieve your goals. If you join “The Happiness Project Experience,” at the end of 2020 you’ll know that you spent time focusing on these two things that everyone needs to be happier: relationships and self-knowledge. I’ll show you how to take small, meaningful steps in these key areas -- and your future self will thank you.

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