Secrets of Adulthood: Hell Is Other People. Heaven Is Other People.

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From Further Secrets of Adulthood: Hell is other people. Heaven is other people.

Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree: to be happy, we need relationships. We need enduring, intimate bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel like we belong; we need to be able to get support — and just as important for happiness, we need to be able to give support.

Hell is other people. Heaven is other people, too.

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