Story: I Can’t Choose What I Like To Do, But I Can Choose What I Do. Like Driving.

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New format: for the weekly videos, I’m now telling a story. I’ve realized that for me, and I think for many people, a story is what holds my attention and makes a point most powerfully.

This week’s story: I can’t choose what I like to do, but I can choose what I do.

Usually I express this Secret of Adulthood in reverse: I can choose what I do, but I can’t choose what I like to do (I can choose to go fly-fishing, but I can’t choose to like fly-fishing; believe me, I’ve tried). But the opposite of a profound truth is also true, and reversing this statement makes sense in a different way.


How about you? Do you sometimes make yourself do something just because you choose to do it? And any other fearful drivers out there? Boy, I wish I could love to drive.

From 2006 through 2014, as she wrote The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, Gretchen chronicled her thoughts, observations, and discoveries on The Happiness Project Blog.



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