Greer Hendricks is one of my favorite people, and someone who had a huge influence on my life as a writer: she was the first editor to buy one of my books. She and I worked together to publish Power Money Fame Sex: A User’s Guide. What a joy it was to write that book — and what a joy to work with Greer! We were both early in our careers, and it was such a happy experience.
She had a long run as a highly successful and respected editor, with more than two decades at Simon & Schuster — and now she has switched positions, and become the author.
With her co-author Sarah Pekkanen, she wrote the new psychological thriller, The Wife Between Us. Even before it hit the shelves, this novel generated a huge amount of buzz and excitement, with starred reviews, a movie deal, and comparisons to Gone Girl and The Girl on the Train. I just got my copy, and I can’t wait to dive in!
I couldn’t wait to talk to Greer about happiness, habits, and productivity.
Gretchen: What’s a simple habit or activity that consistently makes you happier or more productive?
Greer: Exercise. I work out first thing in the morning usually seven days a week — a mixture of running, interval weight training and yoga (which I do with my husband on Sundays). I find that no matter what curveballs are thrown at me during the day I am much better equipped to handle them if I’ve moved my body.
Gretchen: What’s something you know now about building healthy habits or happiness that you didn’t know when you were 18 years old?
Greer: I think most 18-year-olds probably think habits = boring, but I now believe that structure can set you free. If you have habits or an infrastructure in place then you don’t have to spend time making decisions. For example, my husband and I have coffee together outside the home every Saturday morning. We devote this time to going over our calendars (with two working parents, two teenagers and two dogs scheduling can be tricky) and various other logistical details — which ice hockey program seems best for our daughter, how much do want to donate to a particular charity, should we enroll our son in an innovative, but time-consuming allergy study. I can’t say I look forward to these meetings, but they help our home run more smoothly. And if we aren’t scrambling around at the last minute to sort out mismatched schedules we have more time for fun things like sneaking in a movie or a boozy brunch.
Gretchen: Have you ever managed to gain a challenging healthy habit—or to break an unhealthy habit? If so, how did you do it?
Greer: Checking social media. After editing a lot of bestselling authors, I’ve now flipped roles: My first book, The Wife Between Us, co-authored with Sarah Pekkanen, one of my former authors, is about to be published, and I found that I was on Facebook and Instagram many times a day. I finally deleted the apps from my phone because they were becoming too distracting. If I need to check them I can go to my laptop (strategy of inconvenience).
Gretchen: Which habits are most important to you? (for health, for creativity, for productivity, for leisure, etc.)
Greer: I am a firm believer in getting at least 7 hours of sleep, exercising daily and eating fairly healthily. I think if you have these foundational elements in place it’s easier to be creative productive and happy. I also feel less guilty about the vices I do indulge in pretty regularly: a sweet treat during the day, and a glass of wine or two at the end of the night.
Gretchen: Would you describe yourself as an Upholder, a Questioner, a Rebel, or an Obliger?
Greer:I think I was actually one of the beta testers on your quiz. In fact I remember a lunch with you where you asked me a bunch of questions and diagnosed me as an Upholder. I’ve since taken your quiz multiple times and indeed I am an Upholder Although a part of me still wonders if I’m an Obliger who has just figured out how to uphold my commitments by being accountable to others. I have a writing partner, and we block out a huge chunk of the day to devote to our novels. I have a personal trainer and I plan most of my runs with friends.
Gretchen: Have you ever been hit by a lightning bolt, where you made a major change very suddenly, as a consequence of reading a book, a conversation with a friend, a milestone birthday, a health scare, etc.?
Greer: Before I started writing I had been an editor at Simon & Schuster — as you know since I edited your first book! When I landed my first job I remember asking a more seasoned editor how he got over losing books he wanted to acquire. I simply couldn’t imagine that kind of devastation. As I approached my 20 year anniversary I participated in a heated auction to acquire a new author and the author chose another editor. I was upset, but then I realized part of my dismay wasn’t for the right reasons. I was sad because the selection had bruised my ego, not simply because I felt distraught that I wouldn’t have a chance to edit and publish the book. That’s when I realized that although I loved my colleagues and many of the authors I’d edited through the years, I needed a change. The joy I had felt for nearly two decades was no longer as vibrant and while I am sure there are many editors who can do their job without that kind of passion, I didn’t want to. I talked over the decision with my husband and gave notice a few weeks later.
Gretchen: Is there a particular motto or saying that you’ve found very helpful? (e.g., I remind myself to “Be Gretchen.”) Or a quotation that has struck you as particularly insightful? Or a particular book that has stayed with you?
Greer: The only way past it is through it. When I dread a task — filling out tricky insurance forms, a challenging rewrite or a difficult conversation — I remind myself of these words and forge forward.
Also, one of my favorite mottos is one I learned from you: accept yourself, and expect more from yourself. Over the years I have learned to accept that I don’t like to ski or that I am not great with numbers, but to also expect more – to work on making my relationships stronger, to try and conquer some of my fears (driving, for example), and to write a book, which has been a lifelong goal.