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Podcast 213: More Ideas about “Outer Order, Inner Calm” That Didn’t Make It Into the Book, a Tech Hack to Make Mornings More Fun, and Do You Have Dog Sense?


Update: It's the International Day of Happiness! Come on, get happy.

Because of my book tour, we’re recording this episode early. So we’re recording this a few days before the premier of The Fix—but when this episode airs, the show will have hit the airwaves on March 18! So exciting to have it out in the world at last.

Thank you to everyone for your enthusiasm and support of my my new book Outer Order, Inner Calm! The book was an instant New York Times bestseller, which is thrilling, of course. Someone said, "Your last five books have all been bestsellers, so do you not even notice now?"

"Believe me, it's huge every time!" I answered.

I hope to see you during my book tour. You can find information here. If you read the book and get inspired, post your before-and-after photos—how I love a before-and-after. Post to #outerorderinnercalm.

Elizabeth and I are going to do a tour for the Happier podcast! Come see our disembodied voices live on stage. “Happier Hour” tickets for Detroit, Milwaukee, and Minneapolis go on sale the day that this episode goes live: March 20, 2019.

We have four live shows currently booked, with more to come:

The New York City show sold out fast, so if you’re planning to come, do go ahead and buy your ticket. Information here. If you have any questions about buying a ticket, contact the venue. They'll have the answers you need.

Try This at Home: Try these clutter-clearing tips that didn’t make it into my book Outer Order, Inner Calm, because I thought of them too late. For instance, we discuss tips such as...

  • Beware the "frenzy of the clear."
  • If you're the "neat one," and someone is annoying you with his or her mess, do everything within your power to create outer order in what you can control.
  • If you're trying to encourage yourself or someone else to create outer order in a space, think of what new, enjoyable use you could make of that space, so that it feels like working toward a gain instead of eliminating a problem.
  • Face the problem of the quality discard.
  • Ask necessary questions to get something out of a holding pattern.
  • Don't spend money to fix something you don't even like or want.
  • If an item needs to be repaired or tailored, set a deadline.

Happiness Hack: Change the alarm or ring-tone on your smart phone to a fun song from your playlist.

Listener Question: Do you have dog sense, or sixth sense? Elizabeth does, I don't.

Gretchen's Demerit: Repeat demerit. When I'm feeling worried and distracted, I often can't manage to be warm and calm if I run into someone I know—in this case, when I ran into a friend right before the start of my first book event.

Elizabeth's Gold Star: Elizabeth gives a gold star to the marketing team for The Fix, for the terrific ads. To see the outstanding ad that played during the Oscar's, watch here.


  1. Just as we say "Please rate and review the podcast," please rate and review the book Outer Order, Inner Calm wherever you post online reviews (Amazon, Goodreads, etc.). It really helps other readers decide to read a book. Online reviews are very important!
  2. Created by popular demand! To get the new PDF with all the Happiness Hacks listed, you can get it here. (Scroll down to "More Resources.")
  3. If you enjoy the Happier podcast, you can read Outer Order, Inner Calm on Apple Books at

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