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Podcast 217: Don’t Over-Consult, a Hack that Makes It Easier to Exercise, and When You’re Upset, Do You Feel It More in Your Head or in Your Body?


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People often ask me for suggestions for great podcasts, and one terrific podcast is The Jordan Harbinger Show. He features interviews with super-interesting people. It's worth noting: the podcast was named one of Apple’s Best of 2018 in Personal Development. If you're looking for the specific episodes I mention:

  • Episode 159 included an interview with author and professor Cal Newport about his book Digital Minimalism.
  • Episode 162 was an interview with Cesar Millan, the dog whisperer.
  • Episode 160 was a deep dive on why self-help can makes us feel bad, and how to tell the difference between actionable self-help and the inspirational platitudes.

Try This at Home: Don't over-consult. I realized I was over-consulting with my husband Jamie. I was trying to spare myself decision-fatigue by talking things through, when in fact, I should just make the call myself. Elizabeth wants reassurance.

Happiness Hack: When folding clothes, bundle your workout clothes together—including socks—so all you have to do is a grab a bundle before a morning workout. A helpful approach, especially for people who have a hard time getting up early.

This is a great example of the powerful, universal Strategy of Convenience that I write about in Better Than Before, my book about habit change.

I mention that I mail bookplates for listeners and readers. If you'd like bookplates for your books, or bookplates for gifts, you can request them here. Alas, this is for U.S. and Canada only—mailing costs.

Know Yourself Better: When you're upset, do you feel those negative emotions more in your head or more in your body?

Gretchen's Demerit: Because of my book tour, I've fallen behind on my note-taking. I love to take notes, and it's a very important part of my work and my play, but I haven't kept up lately so I'm feeling overwhelmed by what needs to be done.

Elizabeth's Gold Star: Elizabeth gives a gold star to text chains. In her words, “Leave me on the text chain, because I enjoy reading the discussion.”


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