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Podcast 339: Why It’s More Helpful to Ask for Help than to Show Anger, a Listener Struggles with a Talkative Co-Worker, and What Textures Do You Enjoy Most?


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We play a clip of one of our favorite sounds from summer in Kansas City: the cicadas.

Try This at Home: If you need help, show your need, not your anger.

Happiness Hack: Order balloons in the shape of champagne bottles to make a celebration more special.

Know Yourself Better: When it comes to texture, what do you enjoy most? Are there ways to incorporate that texture into your life?

Here's Elizabeth's tattered, beloved Blankee:

Here's the greywacke Sarcophagus of Harkhebit that I mention.

Listener Question: A listener finds it hard to work because a co-worker keeps talking to her. Listeners, we need your suggestions!

Gretchen's Demerit: I started my Album of Now but got stuck in the middle. I knew better; I should've started and pushed through to the end in one day.

Elizabeth's Gold Star: Elizabeth gives a gold star to our mother for making her gorgeous wedding scrapbook.


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  •  I have a new dedicated resources hub related to the Four Tendencies personality framework. Click here to learn more about the Four Tendencies and how to apply it in various settings. You’ll find tips for using the Four Tendencies at work, with families, sweethearts, and children, and to build the habits you want to master. 

What we’re reading:

Elizabeth: Ladyparts by Deborah Copaken (Amazon, Bookshop)

Gretchen: The Waves by Virginia Woolf (AmazonBookshop) and Open House: Of Family, Friends, Food, Piano Lessons, and the Search for a Room of My Own by Patricia J Williams (Amazon, Bookshop)

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