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361: Cultivate a Rest Ritual. Celebrate “Twos-Day.” How to Stop Reading and Begin a Habit.


Update: We've started our new bi-weekly episode, More Happier  – for any listener who wants more Happier. Every other Saturday, with a looser vibe. Free, of course, and it will appear in the same feed.

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We mention the Tackle Box of sticky pads.

Try This at Home: Cultivate a rest ritual. 

In episode 357, we introduced the yearly challenge of "#Rest22in22,” and we asked listeners if they had any rituals related to rest.

I mention Better Than Before, my book about habit change. 

Listeners suggested many rest rituals:

  • instead of hitting "snooze," drink a cup of coffee and go through social media – we discuss the Strategy of the Clean Slate
  • put on a calming essential oil before taking a nap
  • use a weighted blanket
  • listen to a soothing sound
  • rest in a different bed from your nighttime bed
  • change into pajamas for a nap – we discussed this in the January 8, 2022 episode of More Happier
  • listen to the same piece of music
  • have "Quiet Time" after lunch
  • from a teacher: after lunch, students have ten minutes of absolute silence (students can journal, read, sketch, or put their heads down) followed by a five-minute guided meditation

Happiness Hack: Celebrate "Twos-Day." A listener pointed out that Tuesday, February 22, 2022, would be the ultimate "Twos-day.”

An opportunity to celebrate a minor holiday! Maybe with your best friend, sweetheart, sibling, or whoever makes an important “twosome” in your life. 

I sent Elizabeth a silly, but very Twos-Day appropriate gift, but she hasn't received it yet.

I also sent her a Memento Keepsake Journal.

Listener Question/Four Tendencies Tip/Happiness Stumbling Block: How do you get yourself to stop researching and take action? Especially if you're a Questioner.

This question refers to the Four Tendencies framework. If you don’t know your Tendency –whether you're a Questioner, Obliger, Upholder, or Rebel? Take the free, quick quiz here.
Four Tendencies Quiz

We also discuss the "Strategy of Clarity" and the “Strategy of the Lightning Bolt,” two of the 21 strategies of habit-change that I discuss in my book Better Than Before.

Demerits & Gold Stars:

Gretchen Demerit: Even when I hear a weather report, I somehow refuse to accept the fact that the weather might be different from how it is right now, where I am at the moment.

Elizabeth Gold Star: Elizabeth gives a gold star to school administrators, who have been dealing with so much uncertainty and such challenging logistics.


  • Due to popular demand, we'll again offer my 5-Day Journaling SMS Challenge in partnership with M.M. LaFleur to jump-start your journal habit. Text REFRESH to +1 (844) 934-1913.

What we’re reading—we’ll keep doing this, even though #Read21in21 is over.

  • Elizabeth: What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty (Amazon, Bookshop)
  • Gretchen: A Little Devil in America by Hanif Abdurraqib (Amazon, Bookshop)

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