Gretchen Rubin

You Get What You Get, and You Don’t Get Upset.

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It's funny what we remember. When handing out scarves with different patterns, or cupcakes with different colors of frosting, I would hear my daughter's nursery school teachers admonish the children, "You get what you get, and you don't get upset."

I remind myself of this all the time. Sometimes, I can change, control, or choose; sometimes I can't -- in which case, it doesn't help to get upset about it.

This saying is a good example of the "fluency heuristic," by the way: we remember ideas better, and find them more valuable, when they're easy to remember -- for instance, because the words rhyme. (For some reason, I get a big kick out of this.)

Do you have any childhood sayings that have stuck with you? Rhyming or non-rhyming.

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