Gretchen Rubin

Sometimes, You Feel Regret Either Way.

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As I've mentioned many times, I love examples of someone knowing the right thing to say.

In this case, a doctor said the right thing to my friend -- when she admitted to feeling a little let down by the news that she was going to give birth to a boy. She'd been so excited to be having a baby, boy or girl, but when she heard the news, she felt a bit sorry.

He told her, "Of course you feel this way. Before you knew if you were having a boy or a girl, you could look forward to both experiences. Now you know that you're having a boy. It's natural to feel regret about the future that's not going to happen."

I thought that was such a wise observation. Sometimes in life, going down one path means abandoning another path. And it's natural to feel regret about the path not taken. That doesn't mean you're unhappy with the path you're on.

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