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Podcast 9: Treat Yourself, But Resist “YOLO”; the Challenge of Changing Someone Else’s Habit; Why Elizabeth TP’d a Friend’s House.


My sister Elizabeth Craft and I are having a great time doing our new podcast,  “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

We're thrilled--we've hit more than 500,000 downloads, in just eight episodes! Thanks for listening! (If you like the podcast, we’re sheepishly asking people to rate and/or review it, if time and inclination permit; that’s very helpful for a new podcast like ours.)

Like last week, this episode was especially fun; I was in Los Angeles for my book tour for my new book Better Than Before, so Elizabeth and I got to record together in the studio. By the way, Elizabeth is taller than I am, but in the photo she towers over me--she's wearing boots.

And we also had the chance to do our "very special episode." That's coming up next week -- something different. We had a great time doing it, though I will confess, even though it was Elizabeth's brilliant idea, I enjoyed it much more than she did, for reasons that will become clear. Stay tuned for that!

Here’s what Elizabeth and I discuss in today’s episode:

First, we read a thoughtful reader email we got about the "evil donut bringer" issue that we talked about in episode 3. That happiness stumbling block sparked a lot of comments. After the episode aired, Elizabeth and I realized that we'd forgotten to mention something, because it's so obvious to us: Elizabeth is a type 1 diabetic, so for her, those donuts are a serious issue.

Try This at Home: Treat yourself (not to be confused with "treat yourself like a toddler" from episode 7). Bonus: an audio clip from one of my favorite TV shows, Parks and Recreation. To watch the clip of Tom and Donna talking about "Treat Yo'Self 2011," go here. (No surprise, Tom and Donna have very lavish treats; in real life, treats work better when they're more modest.)

Happiness Stumbling Block: Avoid the "fake self-actualization loophole." Not to be confused with a mindful treat. Want to read a list of all ten categories of loopholes?

Listener Question: What's the best way to strengthen good habits through rewards? Great question. This is a very complicated issue, so if you want to read more, check out Better Than Before, chapter on the "Strategy of Reward."

Gretchen’s Demerit: As an under-buyer, I delayed buying toothpaste--and then bought just one tube.

Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Elizabeth goes to her high-school reunion--and has a flashback adventure.


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