It’s time for the next installment of Happier with Gretchen Rubin.
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Listener Question: Andrea Silenzi, host of the great podcast about relationships called Why Oh Why, asks "I just broke up with my boyfriend. Any advice about how to be happier?" (If you know your Friends plot-lines, please note my extremely apt choice of image for Andrea's question.)
Try This at Home: When you're feeling blue, find something to admire -- an idea we lifted from my daughter Eliza's podcast, Eliza Starting at 16.
Here's the Boethius quotation I mention: “Contemplate the extent and stability of the heavens, and then at last cease to admire worthless things.”
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Happiness Hack: "Wash your face as soon as you put your kids to bed."
Know Yourself Better: What's your activity level? Some people like a faster pace, some people like a slower pace.
Elizabeth’s Demerit: Elizabeth hasn't been able to get rid of a cold, because she's been pushing herself too hard.
Gretchen’s Gold Star: Project Cicero is a terrific organization that collects new and gently used children's books and distributes them to under-resourced New York City public schools.
Announcement! I've launched an app, the Better app, to help people learn about the Four Tendencies -- and also to help people form Accountability Groups (Obligers, I'm thinking about you!). Learn all about it here. Don't know about the Four Tendencies -- about whether you're an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? Learn about the framework and take the quiz here.
Here's the link to the Happier 911 playlist on Spotify.
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