A Little Happier: My Former Roommate’s Ex-Boyfriend’s Lesson in How to Be Successful.

As I think back on the great advice I’ve received over the years, I’m surprised to realize that some of the best advice came from very random sources — books I skimmed, people I hardly knew.

Like my former law-school roommate’s ex-boyfriend’s advice. It has guided me for years — and I never even met the guy! And yet I’ve thought about his advice so many times: “Successful people are willing to do things that unsuccessful people are not willing to do.”

What do you think of that advice — do you agree?

And have you ever picked up important advice from an unlikely source?

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  • Ann-Linn Diamond Glaser

    I have recently had an interesting response by friends and family when I talk about being an obliger and what it means. I am a person of strong opinions and take good care of myself as well as others, but when I say I am an obliger people kind of laugh at that sometimes. I have explained that that means that it is easier for me to make some change in my life when I have outside accountability. The term obliger sounds as if I always go with what others want and I try to oblige them and that is not me. How do I reconcile that? I absolutely know that Obliger is my category but I feel uncomfortable when I share that with others.

    • Mimi Gregor

      I, too, must admit that when I hear the term “Obliger”, I think “doormat”. I think that it has to do with the word rather than the tendencies of the people who belong to that category. Perhaps instead of calling yourself an Obliger to others — which they will misinterpret — you might tell them that you do better with outer accountability. It may be more wordy, but they may understand it better.

      • gretchenrubin

        Remember that prominent Obligers include people like Andre Agassi, Tiger Woods, William Shawn, Richard Simmons…I think Katniss Everdeen, though I need to re-read Hunger Games!

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        • Mimi Gregor

          I think, however, that when a person is a Questioner or a Rebel, they can use that term with people who are unfamiliar with the Four Tendencies and have no problem with being understood. The terms are pretty self-explanatory. With Obligers and Upholders, however, the terms are not self-explanatory, so people may need to clarify what they mean when they call themselves by these terms, otherwise risk being misunderstood.

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