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I’ve found an easy way to expand my wardrobe, find more books to own and read, discover movies to watch, and unearth lovely objects to use – all without leaving my apartment or spending a penny.
How? I’ve resolved to Use up what I have. Why is this so hard to do? It’s so satisfying, when I do manage to make myself do it.
The most enigmatic of my Twelve Personal Commandments is to Spend out. I have a miserly, ungenerous nature; by spending out, I mean to stop hoarding, to trust in abundance, to put things in circulation – and to use what I already have.
This resolution comes up in several situations.
Sometimes, I don't use up what I have because I love to acquire. In most cases, I hate to shop, but I buy books, more and more books, even though I have a huge stack of unread books waiting for me. Before I was married, I was very disciplined about never having more than three unread books at a time. My husband didn’t observe this rule at all, and before long, I became a drive-by book-buyer, just like him. If I just read the books I already have, I would be set for months without a single purchase. I'm trying to do that.
Sometimes, I don’t make the effort to use up what I have. Instead of taking a minute to think creatively about how to wear all my clothes, I wear the same tired outfits over and over. I can expand my wardrobe just by wearing all my clothes.
And sometimes I find myself saving things instead of using them, even when that makes no sense. I buy new white t-shirts, then “save” them. I don’t use the lovely stationery my sister gave me for Christmas, I’m “saving” it. But not using things is the same as wasting them. I want to put things to work and use them up.
Using up what I have is a way to clear clutter, too. If I’ve read a book, I can consider giving it away (usually I keep my books, but not always). If I’ve really tried to wear a particular item of clothing, and just can’t do it, I can give it away instead of telling myself, “I should wear that!” and keeping it in my closet. If I’ve decided it’s time to buy a new toothbrush, I should throw away the old toothbrush instead of trying to “save” the new one.
The opposite of a great truth is also true, and it’s true that there can be great satisfaction in pleasing stores – the cozy feeling created by shelves stocked with all the things you need.
In some circumstances, I like having lots of supplies, but in general, I’m trying to use up what I have.
How about you? Does this ring true for you?
* I love New York City, so I loved this video capturing a day in the life of the city. Plus, my husband's former office building makes a cameo appearance, which is fun.
* The book The Happiness Project has been bouncing around at the top of the New York Times bestseller list for nine weeks now! – including hitting #1! You can...
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UPDATE: I wrote a new book about how to de-clutter and organize to make more room for happiness. Order Outer Order, Inner Calm here.
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