Gretchen Rubin

Secrets of Adulthood: What’s Fun for Other People May Not Be Fun for You–and Vice Versa.

Secrets of Adulthood: What’s Fun for Other People May Not Be Fun for You–and Vice Versa.

From Further Secrets of Adulthood: What's fun for other people may not be fun for you--and vice versa.

This sounds so obvious, but it was a huge revelation for me. Even now, I have to remind myself that people go skiing because they honestly want to go skiing, not because they are made from a sterner moral fiber than I am.

The fact is, nothing's inherently fun. Shopping, drinking wine, watching sports on TV, crossword puzzles...none of these things are fun for me. But they're fun for other people. Recently I heard from a reader who thinks it's fun to balance a checkbook! We all have our own ideas of fun.

When I gave up the fantasy that I "should" find these things fun, I gained more time to spend on the things I do find fun -- like reading children's literature.

How about you? What do you find fun, that others don't necessarily find fun, and what do other people often enjoy, that you don't?

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