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Podcast 181: Practice Reverse Gossip, an Email-Related Hack, and How to Deal with a Sweetheart Who Gives Words of Non-Affirmation.


Heading up to Labor Day on September 3 (U.S.), we're gearing up to talk about #HappierLaborDay! Send us your insights, observations, aims, goals, and questions, or post to #HappierLaborDay.

Try This at Home: Practice reverse gossip.

Happiness Hack: When writing a tricky email, don't fill in the "To" line until you know you're ready to hit "send," to keep yourself from sending too early or accidentally. This has saved me many times.

Before & After: Emily made several significant habit changes by using many of the strategies outlined in Better Than Before, such as the Strategies of Monitoring, PairingSafeguards, and Scheduling. Also, she "identified the problem" in many helpful areas.

If you want the Checklist for Habit Change, you can download it here.

If you want to take the free quiz to find out if you're a Questioner, Obliger, Upholder, or Rebel, you can take it here.

Listener Question: Inspired by our discussion of the happiness stumbling block of "raising the bar" in episode 116, a listener asks how to handle her husband's inclination to raise the bar when she does thoughtful things for him—a particular challenge because her Love Language is "Words of Affirmation," and this feels like words of non-affirmation. (To hear more about the Five Love Languages, listen to Very Special Episode 80.)

Gretchen's Demerit:I don't wear sunscreen as part of my daily face moisturizer, because I love Embryolisse Concentated Lait Cream.

Elizabeth's Gold Star: Elizabeth gives a gold star to our mother, for sending photos regularly while she and our father were on a trip. Sending photos was an easy, fun way to keep us in the loop about their adventures.


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