We discuss why, if we’re facing a challenge, it can be more helpful to focus on need than anger, explore a know-yourself-better question related to textures, and a listener asks: I’m back in the office; what do I do about a co-worker who won’t stop talking to me?
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Send in your questions for our upcoming episode, Ask Us Anything!
We play a clip of one of our favorite sounds from summer in Kansas City: the cicadas.
Try This at Home
If you need help, show your need, not your anger.
Happiness Hack
Order balloons in the shape of champagne bottles to make a celebration more special.
Know Yourself Better
When it comes to texture, what do you enjoy most? Are there ways to incorporate that texture into your life?
Here’s Elizabeth’s tattered, beloved Blankee:
Here’s the greywacke Sarcophagus of Harkhebit that I mention.
Listener Question
A listener finds it hard to work because a co-worker keeps talking to her. Listeners, we need your suggestions!
Gretchen’s Demerit
I started my Album of Now but got stuck in the middle. I knew better; I should’ve started and pushed through to the end in one day.
Elizabeth’s Gold Star
Elizabeth gives a gold star to our mother for making her gorgeous wedding scrapbook.
Resources
- If you’re giving one of my books as a gift, or want to personalize your own copy, request a signed bookplate! I’ll share the direct link to the request form in the show notes, or you can click here. U.S. and Canada only, alas—mailing costs.
- I have a new dedicated resources hub related to the Four Tendencies personality framework. Click here to learn more about the Four Tendencies and how to apply it in various settings. You’ll find tips for using the Four Tendencies at work, with families, sweethearts, and children, and to build the habits you want to master.
What we’re reading
Elizabeth: Ladyparts by Deborah Copaken (Amazon, Bookshop)
Gretchen: The Waves by Virginia Woolf (Amazon, Bookshop) and Open House: Of Family, Friends, Food, Piano Lessons, and the Search for a Room of My Own by Patricia J Williams (Amazon, Bookshop)