“You can count on me, and I’m counting on you to count on me.”Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. Of all the Tendencies, Obligers are the biggest group, and the ones whom people count on the most. They put a high value on meeting commitments to others, but may have trouble setting limits and meeting their commitments to themselves.
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Understand Yourself. Understand Others.
- Why can other people rely on me, but I can’t rely on myself?
- Why does it seem like I resist doing things I WANT to do?
- What can’t other people accept that I find comfort and freedom in my routines?
- Why doesn’t everyone do the things they say they are going to do like I do?
- Why do I struggle to make decisions, often becoming overwhelmed by analysis paralysis?
- Why can’t I make time for myself and the habits I know would make me happier and healthier?
Using the Four Tendencies
In just about any role we play—as manager, health-care professional, team member, teacher, coach, spouse, parent, or colleague, to name a few—it’s helpful to know our own and other people’s Tendencies. It’s hard to grasp just how differently we can all see the world. When we can see other people’s perspectives, we understand why, from their point of view, their actions make sense.
In a nutshell:
- Upholders want to know what should be done.
- Questioners want justifications.
- Obligers need accountability.
- Rebels want freedom to do something their own way.
Watch interviews with an Obliger, Questioner, Upholder, and Rebel to learn how they harnessed their Tendency, discover resources to apply your self-knowledge in different aspects of life, and dive deeper into the Four Tendencies framework.