I’m Unique, Just Like Everyone Else.

Further Secrets of Adulthood:


Paradoxes abound in the study of happiness; here are some of my favorite happiness paradoxes.


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  • I guess I will have to wait for the publication…
    “sign-up form here, and every day, a name will be picked at random. U.S., Canada, and U.K. only” (from the Netherlands)

    • gretchenrubin

      I know, sorry about the restriction. It has to do with mailing costs and publication.

  • I also want to win a free copy.. yeah maybe I’ll wait too for the release of your book 🙂 (From Manila, Philippines)

  • seabluelee

    I love your paradoxical Secrets of Adulthood. This one is funny – and so true!

  • Adrienne Wiebusch

    My days are focused around nurturing my son who has severe cerebral palsy and is non-verbal. He attends mainstream school where he’s the only child with such visible differences. This is a wonderful mindset to help build his resilience. Thanks for sharing.

  • john

    test search

  • Ellen

    Ha! I love this! It reminds me of a Pogues song Fairytale of New York –
    “I could have been someone.
    Well so could anyone.”
    Thanks for making me laugh on a Monday morning!

  • Hee hee! “Unique” is one of my most hated words. I think it’s so overused and meaningless. I like thinking that no one is special. If someone else can do something, then so can I! It’s empowering to give up on the idea of uniqueness.

  • I’m pretty sure I’ve heard that saying way before reading it here.

    • gretchenrubin

      I would imagine that many people before me have been struck by the irony of this Secret of Adulthood!