A Little Happier: Accept Myself, and Expect More from Myself.

It’s time for the latest A Little Happier.

It’s a Secret of Adulthood: I want to accept myself, and expect more from myself.

Here, again, are those quotations I read:

In The Dyer’s Hand, in the essay “Reading,” W.  H. Auden wrote: “Between the ages of twenty and forty we are engaged in the process of discovering who we are, which involves learning the difference between accidental limitations which it is our duty to outgrown and the necessary limitations of our nature beyond which we cannot trespass with impunity.”

In a 1961 letter included in the collection The Habit of Being, Flannery O’Connor wrote, “Accepting oneself does not preclude an attempt to become better.”

If you want to read more about my struggle to start driving again, I write about it in Happier at Home.

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  • Kate Hanley

    Love that you’re shining a light on this dichotomy, Gretchen! Call me crazy, but I love a little gray area, and the question of what to accept and what to improve is something I love gnawing on. These two quotes from O’Connor and Auden and great. Totally adding them to my stash. Thank you!

  • Laurie Barnett

    In the business world, we know this as “both/and” thinking. It is often possible to hold seemingly opposing points of view, but often we think of that as impossible.