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Podcast 87: Live From Seattle! Pick Your “Happiness 911” Song, Deep Dive into Manifestos, an Interview with Chris Guillebeau, and More on the Four Tendencies.

It’s time for the next installment of  “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

This episode was recorded live! Elizabeth and I were at Town Hall in Seattle on October 13. We had such a great time. Thanks to everyone who came.  Elizabeth and I had fun doing a live video on Facebook before the show. If you want to see what everything looked like, watch here.

Elizabeth mentions the Seattle-based  novel Where’d You Go, Bernadette? by Maria Semple.

podcastliveeventseattleegkristenTry This at Home: Identify your “Happiness 911” song. Please send us your Happiness 911 song! Email your choice here. We’re making a Spotify playlist, so we can all listen to everyone’s choices. You can find the Spotify list here or on your smart-phone app, you can find the playlist by searching “happierwithgretchenrubin” (one word).

Deep Dive: We take a closer look at manifestos. We talked about this in episode 76, and we’ve received so many great ones. (By the way, Adam loved Elizabeth’s Marriage Manifesto.)

podcastliveeventseattleegchrisInterview: Chris Guillebeau. His latest book is Born for This: How to Find the Work You Were Meant to Do.

 

Happiness Stumbling Blocks for the Four Tendencies. If you want to take a quiz for the Four Tendencies, to find out if you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel, it’s here.

If you want to know when my new book The Four Tendencies hits the shelves, sign up here.

Happiness Hack Speed Round: We took happiness hacks from the audience. So many great ideas packed into a short time — thanks, everyone.

coloringbookhappinessprojectrubinIf you’d like to get my coloring book, you can pre-order one here. One of our audience members mentions the book Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder.

Elizabeth’s Demerit: Elizabeth started using Candy Crush again.

Gretchen’s  Gold Star: Contact lenses!

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Want to know what to expect from other episodes of the podcast, when you listen toHappier with Gretchen Rubin?” We talk about how to build happier habits into everyday life, as we draw from cutting-edge science, ancient wisdom, lessons from pop culture—and our own experiences (and mistakes).  We’re sisters, so we don’t let each other get away with much.

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Podcast 67: Design Your Summer, a Deep-Dive into the Emotionally Charged Issue of Thank-You Notes, and Mother-in-Law Woes.

It’s time for the next installment of  “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

Update: Elizabeth says, “Everything Sarah and I have touched in the last six months has turned to ashes.” Hollywood! It’s a tough place to work.

Remember,  I’m doing weekly live videos on my Facebook Page about the podcast. To join the conversation, tune in Tuesdays at 1:00 pm Eastern.

Also, for our next Very Special Episode, let us know: What’s the best advice you’ve ever received? For work, love, parenting, life…what really made the difference? Email us at podcast @ gretchenrubin .com, comment below, or best of all, call us. We’d love to hear your voice as you tell the story.  (77 HAPPY 336).

Try This at Home: Design your summer.  I’m so excited about my plans for the summer!

Deep Dive/Deluge: Back to the emotionally charged issue of…thank-you notes! We talked about this issue in episode 63. (What name do you like better?) If you want to see my stationery watch this Facebook Live video, around minute 3:45, where I show it off.

Listener Questioner: Anna asks how to deal with a mother-in-law who wants to spend too much time with her and her husband.

Elizabeth’s Demerit: Elizabeth did the dreaded “partial move.” We’ve all done it!

 calendaronfridgeGretchen’s Gold Star: I give myself a gold star for making a count-down calendar for Eliza, as she sprints toward the finish line of her junior year — and Eleanor liked it so much, we made one for her, too.

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Listeners really respect the views of other listeners, so your response helps people find good material. (Not sure how to review? Instructions here; scroll to the bottom.)

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If you’re like me (until recently) you’re intrigued by podcasts, but you don’t know how to listen or subscribe. It’s very easy, really. Really.  To listen to more than one episode, and to have it all in a handier way, on your phone or tablet, it’s better to subscribe. Really, it’s easy.

Want to know what to expect from other episodes of the podcast, when you listen toHappier with Gretchen Rubin?” We talk about how to build happier habits into everyday life, as we draw from cutting-edge science, ancient wisdom, lessons from pop culture—and our own experiences (and mistakes).  We’re sisters, so we don’t let each other get away with much.

HAPPIER listening!

Podcast 21: Join a Group, Put an Item on the Schedule, Enjoy the Present Time, and the Joy of a Treadmill Desk.

It’s time for the next installment of  “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

This episode was particularly fun to record; Elizabeth was in New York City for a wedding, so we were together in the studio — and not only that, our mother was there, too! We tried to persuade her to make a cameo audio appearance, but she declined.

This week…

Update: We got many responses from people who tried the idea to “be a tourist in your own city” from episode 15. So many imaginative ideas.

Try This at Home: Join or start a group. If you want to start a group for people doing happiness projects together, request it here. Or if you want to start a group for people working on their habits together, request it here.

After we recorded the show, our mother made a good point: if you’re in a group that meets regularly, it’s much easier if you set a year’s worth of dates, or to set some kind of rule (first Monday of every month), to set the dates. Thanks to her reminder, one of my book groups has now set a year’s worth of dates.

Better Than Before Strategy for Habit Change: Put an item on the schedule. It sounds simple, but it really works. (Except for Rebels! It does not work for Rebels.) Something that can be done at any time is often done at no time.

Listener Question: “I’m always looking forward to the next thing in life, and not enjoying where I am now enough.”

Gretchen’s Demerit: I relied on sleep medication to get back into a sleep pattern after coming back from Australia, instead of using good sleep practices to get back on track.

ElizabethTreadmillDeskTheFamilyElizabeth’s Gold Star: Now that she has started her new job on The Family, Elizabeth is back on her treadmill desk. You may remember her treadmill desk; she mentioned it in our very first episode. Hearing her gold star made me very happy, because, as I describe in Better Than Before, it was my idea to give her that desk! Best gift I’ve ever given.

Elizabeth and I have a favor to ask. We’re part of the Panoply network, and Panoply has created a listener survey. If you could take a few minutes to take the survey, it will really help us — and Panoply — learn more about our listeners. Thanks!

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We’d love to hear from you: have you joined or started a group — and if so, did it make you happier? What’s your group organized around?

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If you want to listen to more than one episode, and to have it all in a handier way, on your phone or tablet, it’s better to subscribe. Really, it’s easy.

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Is It Better To Be Held to an Action By Habit, Than Not To Be Held at All?

“The things that we are obliged to do, such as hear Mass on Sunday, fast and abstain on the days appointed, etc. can become mechanical and merely habit. But it is better to be held to the Church by habit than not to be held at all. The Church is mighty realistic about human nature.”

–Flannery O’Connor, letter to T. R. Spivey, August 19, 1959, quoted in The Habits of Being

I think of this quotation often when someone asks me (and it comes up surprisingly often), “You make a habit of kissing your husband every morning and every night — but if it’s a habit, doesn’t it become an empty, inauthentic gesture?”

Yes, kissing my husband can become mechanical and merely habit. But it’s better to be kissing by habit than not kissing at all.

Also, although we assume that actions follow feelings, in truth, feelings often follow actions, so we should act the way we want to feel. When I act in a tender, romantic way, I feel more tender and romantic. So the habit doesn’t make me feel less loving, but rather, more loving.

How about you? Is there a habit that you keep in this way?

What Do You Do When You Wake Up Early Due to Jet Lag?

Do you suffer much from jet lag? I do.

Right now, I’m in Los Angeles, at the beginning  of my book tour. I’m at my sister’s house, and because of jet lag, I’m up very early. I feel very productive now, but I’ll have to go to sleep extremely early tonight.

I’m up, so I figured…it’s a good time to write my daily post. About what? My new book of course!

Better Than Before, explains how we can master our habits. In it, I reveal the secret to changing habits—really.

It turns out that changing habits isn’t that hard, when you know what to do. The book hit the shelves last week.

Want to know more about the book, before you head to the bookstore, order it online, or add it to your library list?

To read an excerpt, look here.

To listen to a clip of the audio-book, listen here (yes, that’s me, reading).

Listen to the NPR Weekend Edition interview with Rachel Martin.

Watch me on the Today show (this interview is pretty funny, thanks to Matt Lauer) and on MSNBC.

GretchenRubinParadeCoverCheck out the crazy cover of Parade magazine! Yes, I’m on the cover. Last week, Al Pacino, this week, me. Zoikes.

To check out other habit-related materials, click here. (For instance, you can get one-pagers on “Eating Better Than Before,” “Working Better Than Before, ” “Exercising Better Than Before,” and my favorite, “Reading Better Than Before.”)

Read my Habits Manifesto:

1. What we do every day matters more than what we do once in while.
2. Make it easy to do right and hard to go wrong.
3. Focus on actions, not outcomes.
4. By giving something up, we may gain.
5. Things often get harder before they get easier.
6. When we give more to ourselves,
we can ask more from ourselves.
7. We’re not very different from other people, but those differences are very important.
8. It’s easier to change our surroundings than ourselves.
9. We can’t make people change, but when we change, others may change.
10. We should make sure the things we do to feel better don’t make us feel worse.
11. We manage what we monitor.
12. Once we’re ready to begin, begin now.

 

Request the “starter kit” to launch a group for people changing their habits, together.

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Come to an event — I love to meet readers. If you live in a tour city, I hope I see you in Dallas, Denver, San Francisco, Princeton, Washington D.C., Boston, Madison CT, Cedar Rapids, Philadelphia, or of course New York City. Please come, tell your friends. (Final tour dates in Canada, UK., and Australia coming soon.)

Better Than Before  was very tough to write; habit change is a very challenging, large subject.  But I loved writing this book. And I truly do believe that in it, I present ideas and information that will help people to succeed, even if they’ve failed before.

As always, readers, thank you for your support and enthusiasm. And thanks for your patience as I indulge in some fairly relentless self-promotion. In these days of fewer bookstores and shrinking book coverage, we writers are learning to be pushy. And it’s a fine line between pushy enough and too pushy.

Okay, enough. I’m waiting for my sister and her family to appear. Once Elizabeth is up, we’re going on a hike in Fryman Canyon, then recording a Special Episode for our podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. In the meantime, I’m drinking a lot of coffee.