Gretchen Rubin

Story: I Can’t Choose What I Like To Do, But I Can Choose What I Do. Like Driving.

New format: for the weekly videos, I'm now telling a story. I’ve realized that for me, and I think for many people, a story is what holds my attention and makes a point most powerfully.

This week's story: I can't choose what I like to do, but I can choose what I do.

Usually I express this Secret of Adulthood in reverse: I can choose what I do, but I can't choose what I like to do (I can choose to go fly-fishing, but I can't choose to like fly-fishing; believe me, I've tried). But the opposite of a profound truth is also true, and reversing this statement makes sense in a different way.

If you want to read more along these lines, check out…

Have fun that's actually fun--for you.

Happiness doesn't always make me feel happy.

How about you? Do you sometimes make yourself do something just because you choose to do it? And any other fearful drivers out there? Boy, I wish I could love to drive.

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