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Story: My Sister Wasn’t Sorry To See Me Go, But She Was Glad I Came.

For the weekly videos, I now tell a story. I’ve realized that for me, and I think for many people, a story is what holds my attention and makes a point most powerfully.

This week’s story: My sister wasn't sorry to see me go--but she was glad I came.


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What does this story mean, exactly? I don't think I captured it in my summation in the video. I meant to say: sometimes, even when we don't enjoy something, or feel grateful for it at the time, we're grateful for it later. So when I'm the person who's giving that not-particularly-welcome help, I have to remember not to expect gold stars; the important thing is to be helping someone I love over the long term.

This can be hard for a gold-star junkie like myself! Do you ever battle this? Feel annoyed or disappointed when people don't seem grateful, even if you know that in the long run you're helping? This is particularly difficult, because sometimes people honestly aren't grateful, and would prefer that we not "help." In this case, it was clear that my sister did in fact welcome my help. And at the same time, she was glad to see me go!

If you want to read more along these lines, check out…

Taken for granted? 5 tips for dealing with feeling unappreciated.

Want to be free from French fries? Or, why abstaining may be easier than you think. [This isn't related to the subject of the video but contains words of wisdom from my sister the sage.]

You can also read more about this in Happier at Home.

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