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The Four Tendencies

It’s easier to become happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative when you find the way that’s right for you.

Created by Gretchen Rubin, the Four Tendencies framework is designed to help you know yourself better, understand others, and create the life you want.

Understanding the Four Tendencies Framework

We all face two kinds of expectations—outer expectations (meet work deadlines, answer a request from a friend) and inner expectations (keep a New Year’s resolution, start meditating). Your response to expectations determines your “Tendency”—that is, whether you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.

Knowing your Tendency can help you set up situations in ways that make it more likely that you’ll achieve your aims. You can make better decisions, meet deadlines, meet your promises to yourself, suffer less stress, and engage more deeply with others.

More than 3 million people have taken this short, easy quiz and discovered their Tendency.


Whatever Your Tendency, You Can Learn to Harness its Strengths

Whether you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel, you can learn to harness the strengths and counterbalance the negative aspects of your Tendency to achieve your aims. 

In these interviews, Gretchen Rubin talks with notable people from each Tendency about the Four Tendencies framework, and how they’ve found success in ways that work for them.

Watch the interviews with the Four Tendencies:

Applying the Four Tendencies

Learn more about the Four Tendencies framework and get practical tips to become happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative, in the ways that work for you.

The Four Tendencies and Habit Formation

The Four Tendencies and Work

The Four Tendencies, Family, and Sweethearts

The Four Tendencies and Children

The Four Tendencies and Healthcare

Famous Examples of the Four Tendencies

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