Gretchen Rubin

Podcast 136: Don’t Let Yourself Fall into “Empty,” Another Use for a Smartphone, and Dealing with Photo Anxiety.


Update: I’m excited because my new book The Four Tendencies is a bestseller. Yay! This is the fourth time that I've had a book that hit the bestseller list, and zoikes, it's a thrill every time. After working so hard on a book, to make it as valuable as possible, it's very gratifying to discover that people really do connect with it.

Thanks to everyone who has read it, recommended it, or written an online review (as I've mentioned (maybe more than a few times?), it really does give a big boost to the fate of a book when readers leave reviews on Goodreads, Barnes and Noble, and Amazon).

Speaking of books, Chris Guillebeau's terrific book Side Hustle: From Idea to Income in 27 Days is available now. If you're a fan of his podcast "Side Hustle School," you'll love the book. It's a rare combo of practical and inspiring.

For our upcoming Very Special Episode #140, we want to explore examples of when people know the right thing to say -- or when people say the wrong things. If someone has ever known exactly the right words to say to you, or if you feel like you had just the right words, let us know the example. Or if you've had the opposite experience, when someone (or you) really got it wrong, let us know.

Try This at Home: Don't let yourself fall into "empty." Literally and figuratively. Don't let ourselves get too hungry or under-slept, or run out of gas, cash, printer paper, toilet paper, batteries, medicine, and so on. It creates unnecessary stress or hassle.

This is a particular challenge for under-buyers. If you want to learn more about under-buyers and over-buyers, the quiz is here.

Happiness Hack: Use the camera on your smartphone as a temporary memory aid. For grocery items, parking spots, posted information, invitations, etc. Sometimes, I even take a photo of my handwritten Filofax page, in a combination of old and new technology.

Happiness Stumbling Block: Photo anxiety. Yikes! Managing photos, taking photos, taking too many photos, and so on. As much fun as photographs are, they're a lot to deal with.

I mention that I use Shutterfly to make physical albums out of digital photos.

On the question of how taking photographs affects our experience, check out the study "How Taking Photos Increases Enjoyment of Experiences."

Listener Question: Anonymous asks, "I'm a Questioner, and my best friend is a Rebel. He doesn't want to make plans. How do you get a Rebel to plan ahead?"

If you want to take the Quiz to tell you whether you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel, it's here. Or to learn even more, buy The Four Tendencies book.

Elizabeth's Demerit: Elizabeth gives herself a demerit for not washing her face properly every night.

Gretchen's Gold Star: My mother-in-law, who is a great gift-giver, gave me a necklace with a "4" charm, to celebrate the publication of The Four Tendencies. So fun, and a great memento!

Free Resources:

  1. To find resources about the Four Tendencies framework, you can check my website -- scroll down here. You'll see the Flash Evaluation, the Nutshell Guide, guide to habit strategies, Discussion Guides for groups, a sample chapter, and one-pagers for using the Four Tendencies at work, at home, and in life.
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