Gretchen Rubin

Don’t Check Every Box.

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One of my most important Secrets of Adulthood is: The opposite of a profound truth is also true.

Examples: I keep an empty shelf; I also keep a junk drawer. I try to accept myself, and also expect more from myself. If I want to keep going, I must allow myself to stop.

Last week, in "A Little Happier," I talked about some valuable advice I got from my law-school roommate's ex-boyfriend, to "Check every box." That idea has helped me a lot during my career.

Many listeners wrote to remind me of another important idea: Don't check every box!

Don't imagine that I have to check every box before I apply for a job or try something new.  It's important to stretch, to challenge ourselves, not to limit our sense of possibility because we think that we just don't have enough credentials.

We don't have to check every box.

Excellent advice. Thank you, listeners.

 

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