Podcast 169: Try the Strategy to “Stop Talking,” Arrange Your Apps by Color, and a Talk about Romance with Joanna Coles.


Here in the United States, summer is coming up soon. Do you have any ideas for how to “plan your summer?” We’ve talked about this idea in episodes 67 (for 2016) and 118 (for 2017).

Here’s the quotation I read:

Every man makes his own summer. The season has no character of its own, unless one is a farmer with a professional concern for the weather. Circumstances have not allowed me to make a good summer for myself this year…My summer has been overcast by my own heaviness of spirit. I have not had any adventures, and adventures are what make a summer.

—The Enthusiasms of Robertson Davies

Try This at Home

Try the strategy to “stop talking.”

Happiness Hack

In episode 167, we talked about creating an “empty shelf” in your smartphone. Building on that, to make your smartphone screens look more orderly, arrange your apps by color. This is surprisingly satisfying.



We talked to the brilliant Joanna Coles about her new book, Love Rules: How to Find a Real Relationship in a Digital World.
Gretchen’s Demerit: Once Eleanor could walk alone to school, I stopped walking with her, even though I’d intended to keep doing it.
Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Elizabeth tried a new hairstyle — the “Mai Tai.”


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