Podcast 191: Identify Your Pacesetter, Write a User’s Guide to Yourself, and How to Cut Back on the Nightly Wine-Drinking Habit.

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Find your pacesetter. We mention two episodes of the Happier in Hollywood podcast: in episode 71, Liz and Sarah talk about having a “nemesis,” and in episode 73, they talk about having a “professional crush.” If you want to check out my video courses—eight years later!—look here

Happiness Hack

Write a “user’s guide” to yourself, to help your co-workers know how to work with you most effectively. 

Happiness Stumbling Block

Our listener Whitney’s mother wants to cut back on her evening wine habit. As it happens, many people want to change their alcohol-drinking habits to drink less. I discuss many ideas from Better Than Before, my book about habit change. For instance, we talk about harnessing the power of the Strategy of Inconveniencethe Strategy of Abstaining, the Strategy of the Clean Slate, and the ever-popular Strategy of Treats

Gretchen’s Demerit: I didn’t do anything special when my daughter Eliza came home from her sophomore year of college for the Columbus Day weekend. My mother does this, and it really means a lot to me, and I wish I’d done something to mark the occasion.

Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Elizabeth gives me a gold star for making a photo album to commemorate the birthday celebration weekend we spent in Montana, to mark the milestone birthdays of our father and my father-in-law.


  • Speaking of pacesetters, many people whom I look to as pacesetters have created workshops, so I’m very excited that I’ve done it now, too! My Four Tendencies Workshop is ready and waiting.

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