Podcast 218: Invest in Your Identities, One Solution for the “Evil Donut-Bringer,” and Listeners’ Suggestions About Dealing with Chemotherapy.

Try This at Home

Invest in your identities—with your time, money, energy, and relationships. We get out of things what we put into them. I mention my episode of “A Little Happier” about my identity as a reader

Happiness Hack

This hack tackles the familiar problem of the evil donut-bringer in the workplace. As a new boss, this listener made the rule that people could bring sweets to the office, but they had to keep them at their own desks. She reports: No one has brought sweets yet! 

Listener Answers

Listeners gave many thoughtful, helpful suggestions about how to help someone go through chemotherapy—a question raised by a listener in episode 214. Chemotherapy is a real challenge, so it was terrific to hear so many concrete ideas about how to help. One listener mentioned using the site Bonfire to order t-shirts or hoodies that express support.

Elizabeth’s Demerit

Repeat demerit! Elizabeth didn’t make a plan for their family spring break. 

Gretchen’s Gold Star

The Open Culture website is a terrific source for all kinds of free materials. A true treasure trove.


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