Podcast 203: We Reveal our “19 for 2019 Lists,” Try the “1 Second Every Day” App to Hold On to Memories, and Gold Stars for 2018.


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Try This at Home

Make your “19 for 2019” list for the year—and our lists are revealed! Gretchen:

  1. Give away Christmas decorations we don’t want.
  2. Figure out what to do with My Color Pilgrimage, the little book I wrote out of my obsession with the subject of color.
  3. Get to inbox zero, at least for one moment. Right now, I have 74 emails, going back to 2012.
  4. Create more terrific merchandise for Happier and my books.
  5. Use phone technology to make my life easier. I want to get in the habit of dictating texts, using Siri reminders, deleting apps I don’t use, etc.
  6. Stop eating off other people’s plates—as promised, here’s the Checklist for Habit Change.
  7. Learn to play the ukulele—at least one song. If you want to listen to our interview with the brilliant Roz Chast, where she talks about her love for the ukulele, it’s here.
  8. Launch a daily Flash Briefing and an accompanying podcast.
  9. Have a Summer of Proust—my friend is Caroline Weber; read Proust’s Duchess: How Three Celebrated Women Captured the Imagination of Fin-de-Siecle Paris. I also mention the brilliant set of memoirs by Karl Ove Knausgaard, My Struggle.
  10. On my book tour, read children’s literature instead of watching HGTV before-and-after shows, which for some reason is what I want to do when I’m alone in a hotel room.
  11. Visit Museum of Illusions in New York City with my daughters.
  12. Take Eliza to Las Vegas.
  13. Make a scrapbook of “now.”
  14. Walk faster.
  15. Plan a 2020 reunion for my year of law clerks.
  16. Have six people over for dinner, six times.
  17. Figure out what, if anything, to do with the little pieces I wrote a few years ago for the New York Times Motherlode site about my love of picture books.
  18. Mad Men binge watch—it would take 92 hours!
  19. I reveal my 19th item during the hack.

As suggested in the Happier in Hollywood Facebook Group, Elizabeth decided to do “9 for 2019.”

  1. Visit the Integratron in Joshua Tree National Park, as discussed in Happier in Hollywood episode 72.
  2. Throw an adult dinner party. She’s done this with families, but now wants to do a party just for adults.
  3. Plan a weekend away with Adam—repeat from 2018.
  4. Hold a Happier in Hollywood retreat.
  5. Plan a Happier in Hollywood meet-up.
  6. Learn to make a perfect guacamole.
  7. Buy the perfect long gold necklace.
  8. Get Fraxel.
  9. Spend time with college friends—repeat from 2018.

Happiness Hack

Use the “1 Second Everyday” app. Many listeners have said how much they enjoy this app.

Gold Star

No demerits, only a big gold star for our listeners—and ourselves—for everything we managed to do in 2018, and for planning ahead to make 2019 a happier year.


  1. Thank you to everyone who has pre-ordered my forthcoming book Outer Order, Inner Calm! I so appreciate it. Get your pre-order bonus when you submit your order number or receipt at outerorderinnercalmbook.com.
  2. If you want to lead a workshop about the Four Tendencies, you can get info here. It has been great to hear from people that these workshops have been very useful.
  3. If you want to change your habits in 2019, and you think my book Better Than Before might be useful (I think so!), you can see what you think by downloading the first chapter here. You can find the free discussion guide here, too—scroll down to “Better Than Before.”

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